By: Aleece Weaver
Feeling Safe Is More Than Just Staying Alive
Let’s get one thing straight—feeling safe during birth isn’t just about surviving. Yes, of course we want you to stay alive (and thriving), but true safety goes deeper. It’s about being seen, heard, and respected. It’s about not feeling like a walking uterus in a gown. You deserve care that treats you like a full human—with a mind, emotions, and voice that matters.
The Myth of the “Safe” Space
We hear “safe space” tossed around like a magic fix. As if the right playlist and dim lighting suddenly make the birth room empowering. Spoiler: it takes more than whale music. Feeling safe means being respected. It means someone listens when you say, “No, I don’t want a cervical check right now.” It means your birth is treated like the monumental moment it is.
What Informed Consent Really Means
Too often, “informed consent” looks like a signature on a clipboard while someone hovers. Real consent means you understand your options. You know the risks, benefits, and alternatives—and you get to decide. It’s not about doing what the OB says by default. It’s about asking:
“Why is this being recommended?”
“What are my other options?”
“Do I even want this?”
Your body. Your birth. Your voice.
Reproductive Justice 101
If the term “reproductive justice” is new to you, you’re not alone. Between appointments, emotions, and logistics, it’s a lot. But this one matters. Reproductive justice is the right to have children, not have children, and parent in safe, supportive environments. It’s not a slogan—it’s a movement. Rooted in human rights, it demands that everyone, regardless of race, income, or background, has full autonomy over their body and decisions—free from discrimination and systemic barriers.
“Safety and security don’t just happen; they are the result of collective consensus and public investment.” — Nelson Mandela
Safety Isn’t Just Medical
Let’s talk emotional safety. It’s just as important as physical safety. It means being able to say, “I’m scared,” without someone brushing you off. It means having space to pause, cry, laugh, or breathe without being rushed. You’re doing something powerful—and vulnerable. Emotional safety makes space for that.
Doulas: More Than Stereotypes
Think doulas are only for sage-burning, chant-loving folks? Think again. We’re here to support you in every kind of birth. Whether it’s a hospital epidural, home water birth, or something in between—we’re your advocate. When you say, “I need a break,” we make sure people listen. When you feel overwhelmed, we ground you. When you feel strong, we cheer you on. We protect your dignity, your decisions, and your right to feel safe.
You Deserve More Than Survival
Safety is being informed. It’s being heard. It’s being honored. Whether you’re giving birth, processing loss, or preparing for postpartum, you deserve care that respects your strength and meets you with compassion. If you need someone in your corner to speak up with you or for you—I’m all in.
The resources below highlight the importance of understanding your rights and protecting against obstetric violence to ensure a safe, dignified experience for everyone
Your voice matters. If you want to learn more about advocating for your rights during labor or need support navigating your birthing journey, Contact Me.
